It’s been a while since I showed up on here… It would be easy for me to say “oh I’ve been so busy, I couldn’t find the time to write!” … but that wouldn’t be the full story. The truth is that when I launched my blog a few months ago I planned ahead and put together this big list of things I could write about. It gave me a sense of direction, and it felt great! But as the weeks went by I slowly realised that all the posts I’d planned to write were losing relevance — or weren’t relevant just yet. And instead of acknowledging the problem and finding a solution, I just stared at my list for weeks and hoped that I could still make these ideas work — except it never felt right.

I love writing these blog posts, but it’s important for me to believe in what I’m writing and feel excited about it. So earlier this week I finally sat down at my desk, scrapped my content calendar and started afresh — and I feel so much better for it. To me this is a good reminder that it’s okay to change course ; as creatives posting our work online, we’re often told that consistency is key, but if something doesn’t feel right… it’s okay to pause for a second, take a step back and readjust your plans if needed.

So, let’s get started… And first, let me ask you a question:

How do you handle the fear in your business?

You know, that feeling when a new enquiry comes up, and 50% of the time instead of feeling excited your first reaction is to wonder how you’re going to screw it up. That feeling when you look at that item that’s been on your to-do list for 6 weeks – every Monday morning you’ve told yourself “okay, I AM getting this done this week”, yet inevitably Sunday evening comes… and you haven’t done a thing about it. That phone call you need to make, that product you need to launch, that song you need to release…

Yes but… What if they say no?
What if it’s too soon and I’m not ready?
What if it’s not perfect?

Sounds familiar? I wish I could say “I’ve been there!” but the truth is… I AM there. More often than I’d like to admit. Call it procrastination, self sabotage, lack of organisation… It’s exhausting, and it gets you absolutely nowhere.

I’ve been reading Brianna Wiest’s recent book The Mountain Is You, in which she discusses self-sabotage and the reasons why we do it, so we can learn to identify those patterns and ignite change in our lives. It’s helped me become a lot more aware of all the small and not so small ways in which I let myself and my business down, and one thing I’ve come to realise is that more often than not, I procrastinate out of fear. From chatting with fellow creatives, I think this is something that a lot of us can relate to, so today I wanted to share something that I’ve been doing in recent months whenever I’ve caught myself avoiding a task. Something to help face the roadblocks and hopefully get past them.

Next time you’re sat at your desk, knowing what you should be doing but feeling like you’d rather be doing anything but that thing, grab a piece of paper and work through these questions:

  • What step are you afraid to take right now?‎
  • What is your fear telling you?‎‎
  • Why is this step important in relation to your goals and dreams?‎
  • What’s the worst that could happen if you took that step?‎
  • And what’s the best that could happen?‎
  • How can you break down this step into smaller tasks to make it feel less scary?‎⠀⠀⠀

This has helped me quite a lot recently – I hope it helps you too! ✨

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